With busy lives these days parents rely more and more on screens to help babysit. While the AAP guidelines recommend no screen time until age 2, how many of us actually practice this. Non screen time activities usually require a little conscious effort on part of the parent but are not that effort intensive as parents think them to be.
It’s more about being in a mindset that you will give your child quality time and unstructured play over an iPad or iPhone. I know its easy to just switch on some nursery rhymes and cartoons but screens don’t provide your child with two way interaction. One of the negative impacts of over exposure to screens is with regards language development. You need to switch off those devices and talk and interact with your child to aid language development.
While all this talk sounds great on paper, everyday scenarios are difficult on parents especially those with full time jobs and raising children in a nuclear set up.
I personally found it increasingly hard to keep up with my son once he hit 14-15 months. And though it was freeing to have him sit quietly for short periods of time in front of a screen it was quite evident how nonresponsive this medium of entertainment is.
Here I would love to add a beautiful quote by Janet Lansbury, from www.janetlansbury.com to ponder on:
Truthfully, we waste our energy “occupying” a baby’s time. And keeping a baby busy undermines her natural desire to be an initiator of her own activities and absorb the world on her terms. Babies are self-learners and what they truly need (and pays enormous developmental benefits) is the time, freedom and trust to just “be.”
This is so true, even though this blog topic is about engaging your child, you will see most of the activities are games children enjoy and come up with themselves. They are natural explorers and activities I list here are ones created by my son on his own. I just use his interests and encourage him with similar activities to ones he loves.
Quick Tips On Use Of Screen Time
Though we are not a complete no screens home, I follow these rules with my child and he happily enjoys his screen time without getting addicted to it.
- Decide on content he will watch, this includes a nursery rhyme series by Little Baby Bum Youtube Channel or National Geographic videos on wildlife.
- Don’t hand him the device, he either watches it on our personal computer (we are a no TV house) or I hold the phone in my hands.
- Interact with him during screen time, showing him interesting things on the screen or singing along with him.
- Keep screen time to a minimum – We go days without any screen time. Using screen time more as a source of entertainment when we are really bored and have exhausted all ideas for non screen playtime for the day or mommy needs to get some important work done and no-one is around to watch baby or during car rides when he is getting particularly cranky. To summarize its not a daily feature in our house and I limit the amount of time to about 20 minutes a day at 20 months old.
Screen time in itself is not harmful when the content is educational and the child is not being exposed to it for hours at length on a daily basis.
List of non screen time activities for kids
- Reading – Fill your child’s library with all types of books. Bi-lingual books, board books, picture books, flap books, busy books. A good book rotation keeps them enthused about reading. We created a library corner for our son with a book rack and a storage box that acts as a desk. He loves his reading corner and is always excited about pulling out his next read from the rack.
- Stickers – We started using stickers recently. They are a big hit. Not only is it a great fine motor activity. But also teaches them things like names of fruits, animals etc. I made him his own sticker book and he spends a good 20 minutes engaged in this activity.
- Helping in kitchen – Get the kids involved in safe activities around the kitchen like mixing things and peeling fruits and vegetables. I usually handover a bowl and spoon to my son that he uses to mimic me cooking. Another favorite is peeling garlic pods. He enjoys this and I don’t mind the mess.
- Helping with laundry – Let them help you sort, stack and fold. It will be clumsy work but keeps them engaged and involved in chores from the beginning.
- Pretend play – Buy toy kitchen sets or any other pretend play toys. We play “going to market”. I give my son a bag, he fills it with his favorite fruits and vegetables as if picking it up from the market. Then goes on to cook us a pretend meal. He loves this game and plays it on repeat throughout the day.
- Activity bags – When I am busy, I make him an activity bag fill it with different types of toys and bits and bobs from around the house. Get him to sit next to me while he explores the bags contents. You can add anything from small toys, combs, hair scrunchies, stickers, pompom balls. But remember to keep an eye on your child even when they are playing by themselves.
- Cardbord boxes and sticks
- Play outside
- Old gadgets – You can give them old phones, tv remotes, calculators or other gadgets around the house to play with.
- Baking together – This is a messy activity. But mess is fun. Messy play helps promote language development, so go ahead let them make some mess.
- Water play – Use a tub of water, a few plastic balls, and mugs. You can even give them plastic cups and a mug of water asking them to pour water in each cup. They love these types of water play activities.
- Music and dance
- Cardboard box doll house
- Wash toys together – Again more water fun, but one that gets some work done too.
- Singing songs
- Go to market together
- Play hide and seek in the house
- Matching objects – At about 18 month of age, toddlers love matching and sorting things. Create activities around these. I ask my son to sort based on color of toys, or one that he came up with – match his safari animal toys to the animal pictures in the book.
- Find a local library
- Play ball
- Lego sets – Lego especially Lego Duplo sets are engaging games for toddlers. I carry our duplo lego set in a small cloth pouch in my diaper bag even when we travel. It is not a bulky toy to carry and is open ended so you can make many games out of one set. Eg. We use the figurines from our Lego Duplo set to play with our cardboard doll house.
- Trampoline – If you have space indoors or a nice garden area, trampolines are a great choice of toy.
- Cycle – Find a cycle like this one which can be used from 1 year onwards upto 3 years. It’s a good investment.
- Puzzles – Again this age group love puzzles. You find many floor puzzles these days. My son has not yet got the hang of them but a 2 year old can easily play with puzzles. For 18 month old I will recommend these duck and marine puzzles These are perfect for their skill level.
- Build a pillow fortress
- Tool Box – Toddlers love tinkering around and figuring out what fits where. This is a perfect toy to help with their curiosity.
- An empty box with toys – My son used an empty plastic box oneday and put in as many tiny toys he could fit in it and then proceeded to trying out this game for the next half an hour. I was amazed at how curious he was checking to see which toys fit into this box and trying out different combinations of toys each time. This is an example of child led games. I now give him different sizes of boxes and ask him to put whatever he wants in it. He loves playing this game.
- Building blocks
- Paper towel rolls
- Dough and cookie cutters – Roll out thick circle shaped dough. Then using blunt cookie cutters let them cut out different shapes.
- Story telling
Hope this list comes in handy to you mama’s out there, looking for some ideas to engage your child. Do write to me what your favorite non screen time activities for kids are?
Here’s the list in a convenient printable PDF to put up on your fridge.
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